Robert's Random Ravings

Same-Sex Marriage – Legal Discrimination

Gay Marriage Cartoon

Marriage Cartoon

This will no doubt be a controversial topic to some, but it is an issue near and dear to my heart. I am a gay man. I have a partner of nearly 15 years. But in the eyes of the law, we can never be more than just friends because the federal government and the majority of the state governments will not allow same-sex marriages. They define marriage as a union between one man and one woman.


The Los Angeles Times recently printed an editorial about gay marriage. You can find that post at this link.

Not too long ago, both the man and the woman had to be of the same race. A white man could not marry a black woman. Many of the same arguments thrown around now were used to justify this position, including using the Bible. I doubt anyone today would try to say that a marriage between a white man and a black woman (or vice versa) should not be allowed on moral or religious or civil grounds. Allowing it has not destroyed marriage.

Gays and lesbians are one of the last bastions of “legal discrimination” in the U.S. In fact, the topic is so toxic that the Republican Party used gay marriage as one of its primary speaking points in the 2004 Presidential election. George Bush got re-elected, partially by scaring the people of the U.S. in terms of the gay agenda and what allowing it to move forward would do to this country. “It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.”

It worked because so many people in the U.S. do not understand homosexuality. Some want to have you believe that it is a choice that each person makes, and as such, they could easily choose not to be gay. This is something I hear quite regularly, even to this day. And it makes me very sad and angry that I still have to be subjected to this mentality in 2009.

Some want to convince you that homosexuality is a moral sin; an abomination against G-d, the result of which is eternal damnation in hell. While anyone that feels that way is entitled to his or her beliefs, that is not a belief that should have any part in the laws of the country. Our forefathers were very clear about keeping the Church and the State separate. There are just too many religions around and trying to force one “moral code” on all of us is a violation of our freedom and is something that the Founding Fathers wanted to keep from happening. Religious persecution is a serious thing. We have seen what it can become when taken to the extreme in places like Afghanistan and other parts of the Middle East, or in Bosnia or in Ireland.


I have no problem with a church or a synagogue or a mosque (or any other religious gathering) making their rules as to what they themselves will accept as a definition of marriage. They can enforce that within their own group and if someone does not wish to adhere to those guidelines, they don’t have to stay in that religious group. However a civil definition has nothing to do with sanctity, religion or G-d. Legally it is discrimination to say that a heterosexual couple can leave their social security benefits to each other, but a homosexual couple cannot. There are so many legal rights that a married couple has and these rights are denied to same-sex couples because they cannot marry. This is just plain wrong and discriminatory.

The recent vote in California that overturned same-sex marriage in that state was a very sad day for me and many of my friends. While celebrating the discrimination breakthrough of electing an African-American President, we had to also have thrown in our face that same-sex discrimination is here to stay for now. This is something that needs to change.


01/23/2009 - Posted by | Politics | , , , ,


  1. I really respect your ability to post your thoughts on such a controversial topic in such a peaceful manner. It allows one to read your opinion without feeling attacked… thus allowing me to consider your viewpoint.

    Well done… and well said.

    Comment by nefworldwide | 01/23/2009 | Reply

    • Thank you for your comments. We have had too much partisanship in the last 8 years. It is time to come together and embrace our differences instead of attack them – at least that is how I feel.

      Thanks again.

      Comment by rkurzweil | 01/23/2009 | Reply

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